The "zone" is known by every athlete I have ever worked with-and even though it's sometimes difficult to describe, most athletes will say it's when you are in complete control-totally absorbed in the moment-and when you feel as though nothing can stop you. Sport psychologists call the zone being in "flow," or experiencing the optimal psychological mindset. Being in flow is when you are able to channel all your focus and energy into the only thing that is important. In sports, that's the next play or shot. 

Helping your child get in the zone can be a lot easier than you might think.


First, getting in the zone requires that your child compete against something challenging (or creating challenging practice situations). Studies show when we compete against a too-easy opponent, we often lose our focus or put out only enough effort to win (and don't really end up getting any better). Conversely, playing against a competition that is far superior can be counterproductive. While it is good to play against a better team, if your child regularly plays against teams where she has very little chance to win, she is likely to become frustrated, pessimistic, and possibly even angry-all things that will not help her game.

When practicing, be sure to set up challenging situations for your child as much as possible. Keep track of your child's success rate and you will find that soon enough, your child will become "locked in" to the task.

Watch your child's arousal level and teach him skills that can help regulate those levels. For example, if he is too nervous, you will need to teach him a skill to reduce nerves. On the other hand, if your child is bored, you will need to teach him a skill designed to help with pumping himself up a little so he can get his head in the game. The optimal arousal level-also known as the zone-is between being "flat" and being too nervous.

Self-talk, can also help with getting in the zone more frequently. Teach your child to keep her self-talk positive and productive.

Help your child develop pre-game routines to get centered and prepared for action. I see far too many athletes not take advantage of their time before games and instead allow the environment to get into their head. Instead, teach your child to be proactive before games and prepare for the day ahead. Encourage your child to try using imagery to see success, and work on deep belly breathing to moderate arousal. Add some positive self-talk and kids will be in the zone before you know it.